Delia vs. Myself

Delia is a very complicated character right now, and I am cringing as I read about some of the decisions she makes. However, as I start to think, I find that I probably would make some of the same decisions as Delia does if I were put in her position. However, i have also found sometimes that i completely disagree with her. This is why I thought it would be interesting to compare myself to Delia. First of all, I know that I will probably never be faced with quite as much as Delia is being faced with right now (single mom, father being tried for kidnapping, a lawyer fiancé who is trying to control her, and more), but I do know that there will come a time that I have giant problems to deal with, and I think watching Delia go through it is helping me scope out in my mind what I think I might to in a dire situation. For example, Delia’s father is put in jail and she decides not to go talk to him. Delia is fine with this, and even happy because she is so angry with him. Reading this part, I realized that I could never go with out talking to a loved one that was in trouble, not matter what they had done, because I wouldn’t be able to live with myself. Another trait that Delia has is that she always blames other people for her mistakes. When I read through those parts I thought to myself, “why are you doing this? You are just getting yourself into more trouble than you had to begin with!” Then I though about it and realized that sometimes I blame other people for thing that I have done just to get out of things, and how stupid it really is to not take responsibility for your actions, especially when it something so small. I do know that trauma can affect people in different ways, and everyone grieves differently, but watching Delia mourn the lost of the father she thought she know, I have come to find that Delia and I deal with a loss in a similar way. Having similarities and differences between myself and the main character of the book I am reading if fun, because I have learned to compare myself to the character and have learned a lot about myself from it.